For tips on slowing him down/getting his to respond to your aids, check out these three posts: (1) http://horsegirlproblems.com/post/86152078059/so-im-riding-new-horse-at-my-barn-that-is-a-hot, (2) http://horsegirlproblems.com/post/86452651269/hey-firstly-your-blog-is-an-absolute-life-saver-thank, (3) http://horsegirlproblems.com/post/85732257914/hey-so-im-riding-a-young-massive-horse-who-is-such-a
As for the lunging problem, sounds like he might have had a bad experience in the past. Try doing some work him before you lunge— ground work or riding if you feel comfortable. It’s a little counterintuitive, but this way he’s relaxed for when you lunge him. Try using the approach and retreat method here…start him out on the circle, and as soon as you notice signs of tension bring him back in and praise him. Work in short sessions like that to gradually get him more comfortable…try to progress outward a bit more each time, but for the most part you’re working just to avoid the freak out. Another reason this may be happening is that he simply thinks that lunging equals play time, and he’s just being disrespectful. If you think that’s more likely the case you can message me and I can give more in-depth advice, but in short I’d increase his ground work and instead switch your lunging approach to the “ask, tell, insist” model with a more controlled circle and slower gait, stopping when necessary. Good luck!
Hi! That’s great, good luck :) Here’s a basic overview of how trying horses works: your trainer will line up an appointment, and you’ll go together to look at the horse. Wear your riding clothes, and bring a video camera for someone to tape you so that you can refer back to the horse later. Bring your saddle if you have one, but do check it with the owner first to make sure they’ll be okay with the fit— some prefer you use a saddle on farm that’s already been fitted to the horse, and that’s no big deal. They should have everything else the horse needs (spurs, pads, etc) at the farm to lend to you. You’ll try the horse, leave, and then consult with your trainer on if he was a good fit for you/worth moving forward on. If not, on to the next horse! Don’t be afraid to ask your trainer anything either.
As for what to look for…you’ll want to turn an eye towards his conformation and look for any glaring errors (no horse is perfect of course, but it’s good to be critical in the beginning). Same thing goes for riding quirks. Every horse is weird about something, you have to figure out what those quirks are, whether or not you can work with them, and if they are outnumbered by benefits/good skills the horse has. I’m sure your trainer will have to do this, but try out a bunch of different stuff with the horse— transitions, extension/collection, lateral work/bending, circles, lead changes, jump courses similar to the divisions you’d be doing, etc. For the first ride you can just ask general questions like: how long have you owned him, where did you buy him from, what is his breeding, is he registered, has he had any past injuries (ask more pointed medical questions if you decide to move forward with the horse), what level has he been shown/ridden up to, etc.
I used to never wear full seat breeches but my Equirex ones are so nice omfg
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Aw it’s okay, I don’t mind at all!
Obviously you and this guy both like each other enough to go out on this date— this lunch is just the place you get to decide if you really like him or if it won’t work out. Wear an outfit you feel good in, and on the date be yourself and just have fun getting to know him…dates aren’t anything huge, and you’re not on trial where you have to say and do everything perfectly, so you can relax. Laugh, banter, talk about stuff you like and stuff he likes, etc. It’s really quite basic, you don’t have to prepare— it’ll feel pretty natural. Remember that he’s getting to know you too, so don’t be shy to share stuff about yourself! As for kissing, you don’t have to kiss after the first date— really, you don’t, so if you like him but it doesn’t happen don’t feel like you did anything wrong. If it happens, it happens, but again, it’s nothing you should stress about preparing for… it should be natural and it’s okay if it’s not 100% perfect. Just have fun this weekend, and know that no matter how it goes you’ll have plenty more opportunities in the future ;)
For general advice re: pawing, check out this post: http://horsegirlproblems.com/post/82577285815/my-horse-is-constantly-pawing-at-the-ground-every-time
Specifically to the trailer, I’d practice a lot of loading/unloading so he learns to stand patiently and nicely (again, only praise when he stands quietly, even negative attention will feed into the problem). If you’re driving and he starts pawing like crazy, you can gently tap the brakes as a reminder that he needs to bring all of his feet to the floor. As long as he has this habit, you may want to get him Soft Ride boots or an equivalent so that he’s protected (and the trailer floor isn’t as easily torn apart either). Also, make sure he has a hay net or something in the trailer with him to keep his attention and keep him calm. Good luck! :)
It really depends on your geographic location (e.g. Midwest vs. Northeast), how in-depth the assessment is, and your vet’s individual rate. You can usually contact your vet’s office and get a quote for what a pre-lease/pre-purchase exam would cost. It will most likely be upwards of a few hundred dollars (more if you do xrays/blood work/drug screening), but again, I can’t say for sure. Sorry for the broad answer!
if I wrote harness I totally meant halter, it’s been a long day LOL
Haha no worries, we all have those days! The best way to deal with it is to not let it happen in the first place ;) try to correct it before it happens. Keep his attention at all times (anytime you feel a shift ask him to do something that occupies his mind…changing direction, backing up, circles, change of pace, leg yielding, etc), walk near the shoulder of the horse so he can’t really get the momentum to rear up, and work on ground work in your free time so he’s relaxed and responsive. Don’t let him walk behind you where he has an advantage. But of course, sometimes things just happen! If you do have a rearing horse on your hands, you want to get him down on the ground and moving forward (in any direction— forward doesn’t mean straight). Stay by his shoulder so his front feet can’t hit you, and spin him around in a small circle to bring his feet down and redirect his attention, sending him forward like you mean it.
It’s great that you’ve prepared— make sure your presentation includes why this would be good for you, why this is the opportunity you should take (as opposed to waiting for other horses down the line), and why you can make it work logistically speaking. Also, try to think ahead to what some of their concerns will be so you can have a counterargument. That said, if they throw up roadblocks, do try to understand where they’re coming from— they want to give you all they can, but the details may just not be feasible (finances are very inflexible, you have to look at long-term costs). However, because of this, try to think about what you can do to help with costs— whether it’s getting a part-time job, doing odd jobs, selling things you make yourself, working at the barn for free board, etc. If you want this, you can make it work, but you’ll probably have to work for it. When you approach your parents, do it when you all have a lot of time and can have a full conversation. Speak persuasively and diplomatically, you want to ease them into it and compromise when possible. Don’t try to force them into it by drilling arguments into them— be flexible and allow for a real conversation so they have time to process and understand. Good luck! :)